Becoming The Change Podcast (Episode 624): Be Authentic With Others Through Your Compliments

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Be Authentic With Others Through Your Compliments

“Give out authentic compliments to people. Compliment them on WHO they are, not just WHAT they’ve accomplished.”

-Jesse Itzler

Authenticity. It is a word we often hear but is rarely heard enough to be a part of our everyday vocabulary. It is my hope however that this will change soon because in my opinion we need more authentic people in this world. Ones that are real and truthful that want to bring good back in to the world and more importantly share love towards one another. In today’s quote American entrepreneur, author and speaker Jesse Itzler mentions that when we give authentic compliments that need to be about who they are as a person. This is in itself what is missing from the equation in regards to sustaining a positive and promising relationship or connection with someone else. We more often than not focus on the accomplishment itself and not really the character of the person.

Compliments can be a dime a dozen and can be geared towards positivity, intelligence, creativity or resourcefulness. But for today’s focus it will be on ways in which we compliment others for who they are. When we intentionally do this we build their self confidence and also strengthen their relationship with the, The key is to be specific as to what you are complimenting them about. On there are 15 compliment starters as I like to call them so that you have some idea of what authentic compliments you can use to further strengthen connections with those you love and care about:

  1. You have impeccable manners.
  2. I like your style.
  3. You’re strong.
  4. Is that your picture next to “charming” in the dictionary?
  5. Your kindness is a balm to all who encounter it.
  6. You are brave.
  7. You are beautiful on the inside and outside.
  8. You have the courage of your convictions.
  9. You’re a great listener.
  10. You were cool way before hipsters were cool.
  11. That thing you don’t like about yourself is what makes you really interesting.
  12. You’re inspiring.
  13. You’re so thoughtful.
  14. When you make up your mind, nothing stands in your way.
  15. You seem to really know who you are.

Authentic compliments help to bring out the best in others and us as well. Let’s focus on utilizing these more within our relationships with others and I’m sure those same compliments will come back towards you two fold.

What does this quote mean to you and how can you apply today’s message towards developing your relationship skills?

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